So… this is kind of big deal for me. My first SmallBox blog post! Very appropriate being Think Kit and my topic.
BIG GOODBYES AND HELLOS.
So if you are a regular around these parts you probably know I'm the new guy. So that's obviously a big hello for me this year but it's not my only.
I've said my biggest hello to my new baby girl.
I've also since said hello to a minivan.
I've welcomed a new sister-in-law and a brother-in-law.
I said howdy to a prosecutor, a judge and a defense attorney for the first time in jury duty.
New hipster glasses from the great Warby Parker.
To becoming an Urban Beardsman.
And hello to two new cats, Biscuit and Gravy.
WITH EACH OF THE HELLOS I HAD TO SAY GOODBYE TO SOMETHING.
To sleep. Oh how I miss sleep...
My last shred of manliness..Remember I said minivan?
My previous relationship with my brother and sister.
My idealist view on justice and forgiveness.
My old glasses that had been a defining piece of my face for 15 years.
A clean shaven face, my razor and kisses.
My identity. Until this week I have always be a dog person pretty passionately.
My BIG GOODBYE AND HELLO.
Despite all of these changes in my life one of the biggest and most recent goodbye and hello this year was leaving the Digital Corps and Ball State. For almost 10 years it's all I've known as an adult and professional. I went to school there and stuck around to help run the program. I was the first class of students that went through it and helped create and shape it to what it is today. I left some great coworkers who were also amazing friends, a place that was filled with great projects and culture but so much had changed.
I live in Indy. I have a growing family. I was getting too old to work with college students. My job focus had changed. It had all changed and I needed to find my niche. This goodbye was going to open a wave of new hellos that I had been ready for for a long time.
But...I am terrified and that’s ok.
Goodbyes are scary. You're basically leaving what you have found to be safe and comfortable for the unknown but goodbyes are necessary when you grow up, things change and it's time to move on and say hello to something new. Most goodbyes are small, some goodbyes are life changing, take the time to stop and revel in the possibilities.
"EVERYTHING THAT HAS BEGINNING HAS AN END."--THE ORACLE
I'd add that all endings create new beginnings. Life is a cycle. It ebbs and flows. It has ups and downs. Goodbyes and hellos. Take the time to savor them but not be afraid of them.
Goodbye and good luck.
Today’s prompt: “Aloha. What did you say goodbye to this year? Was it a bad habit? A '94 hatchback? Or something less tangible? How did you feel the day after? The week after?
Or! What did you say hello to this year? Did it enrich your life...or detract? A new favorite possession? A tattoo? Did you decide that your life was missing something, or did you just fall into new-ness?"